The ocean is an interesting place. Many will produce off-spring, and leave them to ‘figure out life on their own.’ Survival is about making their way through the waters of life. Sometimes there are collaborative efforts between species of marine life. Coral can become a feeding ground as much as a hiding place. Sometimes there is a give and take of “I’ll do this for you, if you do this for me” kind of effort. While some fish just get too adventurous for their own good swimming into nothing but a territory of jellyfish, or become too reliant upon the school of fish for protection, they get eaten by seals or sharks or whales. Most of the time, it’s about making your own way for yourself.
Life on Earth sometimes is a mixed bag of what one would find in the ocean. There are those who have had to make their own way without others to help out. There are those who are dependent upon someone giving them a map to figure it out. And then there are those who so wish to do things bigger than themselves, without realistically having the means to do so. Having illusions of grandeur without realizing some of the larger things in life require a collaborative effort means that the illusion remains a pipedream unfulfilled, not realized and never seeing the light of becoming meaningful or solution-oriented.
The problem with this scenario is that most of these folks don’t want to read the map. Going against the grain as a maverick, doesn’t mean acting and reacting without research. A good idea remains only a good idea that never gets executed if you don’t do the homework beforehand. It’s like trying to put some electronic gadget together without wanting to read the instructions.
I call these people the dreamers in life. They dream and they dream big. But they don’t want to do the work themselves to make their dreams or wishes come true. More importantly they think so positively, they are not realistic about how to overcome the negative forces in life and remain stuck once they get railroaded.
For example, year after year, contestants on American Idol try out. Some of those who never make the cut, think they deserve fame instantaneously from the moment they step one toe of their foot into the arena because they made it to the audition. Well, so did hundreds of thousands of other people. Now what are you going to do? What’s worse is in the same breath, they gripe about the wait, the work involved, they gripe about the people who know better and disrespect the fact they have an opportunity in the process to learn along the way.
My mind goes back to Debbie Allen in the movie, “Fame” saying “You’ve got big dreams, you want fame. Well fame costs, and right here is where you start paying in sweat…”
No one can take away your sweat if you actually sweat. If you sweat, for real – then you know intense pain. You know the pain and disappointment after the 35th try, but you keep trying. And if it doesn’t work or you can’t find your way you still keep going even if it means you’re flipping burgers in the interim.
There is a phone call I keep receiving from a guy who wants me to make him a star. But he hasn’t done anything. He hasn’t put in the hours. He has not put in the sweat. Yet, he thinks his movies are Oscar-winning, yet he can’t get them made or released theatrically or even in Indie mode or even straight-to-video. There is no news here. I refuse to take him on. He is a star in his own mind. He believes that public relations can open doors and the spotlight will shine and he will be wanted. He even thinks this will give him some sort of ‘golden pass’ in life.
Perhaps this is the perception he has because there is a misconception today as to what makes someone famous or deserving of fame. I blame TV for this. I blame tabloids for this. But ultimately I blame him for being naïve. I believe that you have to be a realist to make your dreams come true and not only a dreamer. It makes this so much tougher for people like me to have to ‘deal’ with these kinds of egos and illusions of grandeur. It makes it tougher to convince someone that in REAL LIFE, not REALITY LIFE, that you can’t make something from nothing. You have to do the work, to make yourself something of substance to have longevity or it just doesn’t work.
Sing with me Billy Preston and R.I.P. – “Nothing from nothing, leaves nothing…”
Not only can you not make anything from nothing, but in the end, there is no substance to make it worth your while to invest energy or time into nothing when the person who wants ‘something’ actually has nothing to offer. Why develop their dream, when they themselves are not invested in their own dream to do any of the footwork? Why try to figure out who the heck they are, so you can do all the work for them, having it leave you empty in the process?
This is what I call flimsy p.r. I don’t do flimsy p.r. It’s a waste of my time. And not just my time or their time. But I am not a believer in wasting the public’s time or energy on taking interest in someone who is only there for ego and money and not for making the world a better place.
We have a choice to make imprints. It’s part of ‘wiling energy.’ Willing energy is all about making the effort to do something of substance, to stand for something other than mere jibberish. Words are great, but actions speak louder.
People can want big things. And people can rub a genie lamp 1,000 times til their hands burn. But wanting things to be so and wishing for things to be so, doesn’t make them so.
It takes sweat equity. It takes time. And it takes willing energy to devote time into developing something. So in the end when you leave this world, your life won’t have been for nothing…
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